When School Work Gets Tough!
Whenever I play golf and hit a great shot off the tee, I go out to where the
ball is and look back and I think, “Wow, did I really hit it that far?”
When you look back, you get a pretty good gauge of how you performed.
So it is with your kids and school. Since it’s the end of the school year, now
is the perfect time to look back and make a judgment as to just how well your
son or daughter did in school this year.
If that question puts chills up your spine, but not happy chills, this would be
a good time to think about what you can do as a family now to rectify the
The problem is not going to take care of itself. And
without some kind of remediation, the problem will
just get more challenging as the school work gets
This might be a good time to think about finding
a college student or even a high school student who
does very well in school to be a personal tutor for
your son or daughter. You could also consider
summer school, and for some that might be
the best option.
For others, just going over basics—
taking the same text book they used and
reviewing it—might be all they need.
Take a look at what needs improving.
Was Spanish a problem? We have plenty
of Spanish language radio stations.
Perhaps your kid should spend some time
tuning in. Entrenching them in the language by
way of the radio is a good thing. Require your son or daughter to tune in every
day. It can help tremendously in getting a real feel for the language.
You have to stick to your guns. Your child may not want to go over those
multiplication tables every day, but make it a requirement.
There is always a way to accomplish you goals. You as a parent need to
put on your creative hat and figure out what would work best for your child.
For some, you might even want to consider changing schools. Maybe a
charter school or a private school is what they need. Or maybe if they are in
that kind of a school already, perhaps a public school would be a better fit if
your son or daughter is struggling with learning disabilities.
It behooves the parent to really think things through, and think about how
you can do things differently when August rolls around. Make sure you
consider all the factors. Was your child in too many activities? Does your child
work a part-time job? Is it too much?
These are all questions you need to answer. A part-time job is great, but
school must come first. If something has to go, I vote that it’s the part-time job,
so he or she can devote more time to school work.
Next month: Summer for some kids means a long visit, sometimes to
another state, to spend time with mom or dad. Dr. Leman offers tips to
divorced parents on making that summer visit go as smoothly as possible.
Dr. Kevin Leman is a Tucson psychologist and author of more than 30 bestselling
books, including “Have a New Kid by Friday!” and “Have a New
Husband by Friday.”